Comments for Intervention In The Rooms http://intervention.intherooms.com Just another ITR Blog Network Sites site Wed, 24 Jun 2009 03:56:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Hitting Rock Bottom "H.E.L.P.S." by Mary http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/06/19/hitting-rock-bottom-helps/#comment-78 Mary Wed, 24 Jun 2009 03:56:03 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=24#comment-78 Pretty good post. I just came across your blog and wanted to say that I have really liked reading your posts. Any way I'll be subscribing to your blog and I hope you post again soon! Pretty good post. I just came across your blog and wanted to say
that I have really liked reading your posts. Any way
I’ll be subscribing to your blog and I hope you post again soon!

]]> Comment on My Crisis in Recovery by jeanne http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/03/09/hello-world-2/#comment-3 jeanne Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:12:25 +0000 http://blognetwork.iloverecovery.com/intervention/2009/03/09/hello-world-2/#comment-3 I've been drinking on & off for 40 years (since I was 15). I recently went to a rehab for 30 days and was sober for 90 days and drank again one night. I don't go to meetings and have trouble listening to people's hard stories to tell and stopped going. At this point I have no clue who I am and feel like I'm just standing still in time and don't know how to get past this. I'm sad to think I can never drink again and drinking is all I've ever known. My 16 year old says tells me he can't stand me now and that I was more fun when I was drinking. WOW what do I do with that. He encourages me to have a drink and loosen up!!! And the truth is I was happier when I drank. I feel like I reversed in time and am living my life in the past before I started to drink as I have no idea who I would have become without it all these years.I don't know how to move on and barely can relate with my family at all. I just want to get in my car and drive far, far away and never look back. I'm confused and feel like a part of me is forever gone and I don't know how to find myself again. Jeanne I’ve been drinking on & off for 40 years (since I was 15). I recently went to a rehab for 30 days and was sober for 90 days and drank again one night. I don’t go to meetings and have trouble listening to people’s hard stories to tell and stopped going. At this point I have no clue who I am and feel like I’m just standing still in time and don’t know how to get past this. I’m sad to think I can never drink again and drinking is all I’ve ever known. My 16 year old says tells me he can’t stand me now and that I was more fun when I was drinking. WOW what do I do with that. He encourages me to have a drink and loosen up!!! And the truth is I was happier when I drank. I feel like I reversed in time and am living my life in the past before I started to drink as I have no idea who I would have become without it all these years.I don’t know how to move on and barely can relate with my family at all. I just want to get in my car and drive far, far away and never look back. I’m confused and feel like a part of me is forever gone and I don’t know how to find myself again. Jeanne

]]> Comment on Up a Creek by Jeff VanVonderen http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/03/23/a-post-about-something-very-important/#comment-40 Jeff VanVonderen Tue, 16 Jun 2009 21:39:15 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=6#comment-40 Thanks Richard, and yes, I'm doing well. And way to go in choosing the course you have. We can always use the reinforcements. Thanks Richard, and yes, I’m doing well. And way to go in choosing the course you have. We can always use the reinforcements.

]]> Comment on Up a Creek by Jeff VanVonderen http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/03/23/a-post-about-something-very-important/#comment-39 Jeff VanVonderen Tue, 16 Jun 2009 21:37:39 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=6#comment-39 Thanks Helen for your kind and complimentary words and glad it is helpful. Best to you as you press on in your journey. Thanks Helen for your kind and complimentary words and glad it is helpful. Best to you as you press on in your journey.

]]> Comment on Up a Creek by Lena http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/03/23/a-post-about-something-very-important/#comment-38 Lena Mon, 15 Jun 2009 16:09:31 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=6#comment-38 Jeff, I love the way you write and this "Parable" is fantastic. I come back and read it once in a while to remind me to keep alert, focused and to keep walking strong in my recovery journey as well. Bless you, your the best at what you do! Hug and recovery love, Lena Jeff, I love the way you write and this “Parable” is fantastic. I come back and read it once in a while to remind me to keep alert, focused and to keep walking strong in my recovery journey as well.
Bless you, your the best at what you do!
Hug and recovery love, Lena

]]> Comment on Up a Creek by Richard Van Voris http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/03/23/a-post-about-something-very-important/#comment-37 Richard Van Voris Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:50:31 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=6#comment-37 Thank you for the story. It may sound cliche but you have been a role model for me. After watching you on the show and at the urging of my partner, I started work toward a Liscence in Addictions Counseling from the state of Massachusetts. I am currently working as a counselor at a detox on Cape Cod and I feel it is my calling. Which is pretty cool to know at the ripe old age of 56. In time I hope to do interventions with my partner Cynthia who is a Liscenced Clinical Social worker. At any rate I hope you are doing well after your relapse, it sounds as if you are. Mind the waterfalls. Richard Van Voris West Falmouth, Cape Cod MA Thank you for the story. It may sound cliche but you have been a role model for me. After watching you on the show and at the urging of my partner, I started work toward a Liscence in Addictions Counseling from the state of Massachusetts. I am currently working as a counselor at a detox on Cape Cod and I feel it is my calling. Which is pretty cool to know at the ripe old age of 56. In time I hope to do interventions with my partner Cynthia who is a Liscenced Clinical Social worker.
At any rate I hope you are doing well after your relapse, it sounds as if you are. Mind the waterfalls.
Richard Van Voris
West Falmouth, Cape Cod
MA

]]> Comment on My Crisis in Recovery by lisabecker http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/03/09/hello-world-2/#comment-2 lisabecker Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:19:02 +0000 http://blognetwork.iloverecovery.com/intervention/2009/03/09/hello-world-2/#comment-2 Your story is very moving. I have been sober 26years and for 17 of those years I attended AA regularly. Through a divorce and bad behavior on my part I fell away from all of it. I did not drink or do drugs. 5 years ago I became very involved with a church that I really like and have always hade a very strong faith in God. I get that I'm sober because of him. However I am finding that alot of people at church drink and so making friendships is very hard. I have spent the last 6 years in a relationship with someone who is painfully addicted to crack cocaine. He is a wonderful person. In the prcess of loving him I have lost me and am not sure how to get it back. I love being sober my children have never seen me drunk or high. I finally get the part in the big book about "we must hang together lest we die alone" I'm just not sure how to get myself back to meetings. I seem to be controlled by everything except joy and really miss it. Not sure why I'm writting just reaching out. Lisa Your story is very moving. I have been sober 26years and for 17 of those years I attended AA regularly. Through a divorce and bad behavior on my part I fell away from all of it. I did not drink or do drugs. 5 years ago I became very involved with a church that I really like and have always hade a very strong faith in God. I get that I’m sober because of him. However I am finding that alot of people at church drink and so making friendships is very hard. I have spent the last 6 years in a relationship with someone who is painfully addicted to crack cocaine. He is a wonderful person. In the prcess of loving him I have lost me and am not sure how to get it back. I love being sober my children have never seen me drunk or high. I finally get the part in the big book about “we must hang together lest we die alone” I’m just not sure how to get myself back to meetings. I seem to be controlled by everything except joy and really miss it. Not sure why I’m writting just reaching out. Lisa

]]> Comment on My View on Sponsorship by pbrstreetgang http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/04/25/another-absolutely-critical-post/#comment-56 pbrstreetgang Sun, 31 May 2009 18:13:05 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=8#comment-56 Everyone has there own opinion, here's mine. I've had a sponsor after I found out what that was. 15 years have past and what I tell the newcomers today is, just remember, your sponsor has admitted that there life is unmanageble, they have admitted insanity and have by there own admission been restored to sanity........Always consider the source, always question what comes out of another alcoholics mouth. Everyone has there own opinion, here’s mine. I’ve had a sponsor after I found out what that was. 15 years have past and what I tell the newcomers today is, just remember, your sponsor has admitted that there life is unmanageble, they have admitted insanity and have by there own admission been restored to sanity……..Always consider the source, always question what comes out of another alcoholics mouth.

]]> Comment on My View on Sponsorship by W J Kenny http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/04/25/another-absolutely-critical-post/#comment-55 W J Kenny Wed, 20 May 2009 14:10:02 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=8#comment-55 When AA began it began with two drunks being willing to sacrifice their lives for each other. That is the sort of spiritual moment dotted throughout time that keeps alive the better aspirations of humanity. Then naturally they began to write things down. Then we had education and interpretation. But it is the spirit of self sacrifice that created and helps our fellowships survive and albeit despite our own best efforts to the contrary or detriment of our often hastily overlooked failings. Headstones,headlines and media presentations do not speak for the now 96% who are driven from recovery by a glaring absence of true spiritual fellowship and the humility associated with self forgetting. i too have a sponsor and irrespective of how it certainly helps me in my life his first question is always the same: "Who are you helping". Motive! Sure i write on forums and try be helpful but last night i had a newcomer in my home. Then a young man called who had no weather clothes so i went to my wardrobe and gave him my padded waterproof jacket. The spiritual development is in the remembering of when i lived in rags, survived on chocolate bars and walked 14 miles to 3 meetings a day. The desire to seek help came when suicide was as ordinary as having a cigarette or drinking a cup of tea. Something changed forever and i got a desire. Thankfully i met men and women who knew of that desire in a tornado of self destruction and despite my terrors welcomed me in their homes. i got the best seat in the house, the largest cup and the largest slice of cake. i was driven home to a remote location where even my family were afraid to drive me. Then i was listened to and kept safe until sleep was apparent. But there were two men in the front of the car and i was attracted to what they had and whom neither regarded as anything but a spiritual gift shared. My desire has grown since then through application of spiritual principles such that it is mostly my life today. High Spiritual Development only occurs when "WE" carry a message "WE" share based on "Our" experience strength and hope. My sponsors sponsor came with me on my first 12th step call and never was sponsorship seen by me in any other context than this. One of our most famous Irish poets once wrote "Life is half murdered by language" so i guess books and words are all fine but action is the key and the "We" that prefixes all our steps until the 'having had', 'these steps' and this message. Hence the small i. Not that difficult to reprogram Microsoft to permit the insignificant little i but to transform a life of the big I takes an awakening of the spirit. Scariest journey on earth but i think your great. Lem When AA began it began with two drunks being willing to sacrifice their lives for each other. That is the sort of spiritual moment dotted throughout time that keeps alive the better aspirations of humanity. Then naturally they began to write things down. Then we had education and interpretation. But it is the spirit of self sacrifice that created and helps our fellowships survive and albeit despite our own best efforts to the contrary or detriment of our often hastily overlooked failings. Headstones,headlines and media presentations do not speak for the now 96% who are driven from recovery by a glaring absence of true spiritual fellowship and the humility associated with self forgetting. i too have a sponsor and irrespective of how it certainly helps me in my life his first question is always the same: “Who are you helping”. Motive! Sure i write on forums and try be helpful but last night i had a newcomer in my home. Then a young man called who had no weather clothes so i went to my wardrobe and gave him my padded waterproof jacket. The spiritual development is in the remembering of when i lived in rags, survived on chocolate bars and walked 14 miles to 3 meetings a day. The desire to seek help came when suicide was as ordinary as having a cigarette or drinking a cup of tea. Something changed forever and i got a desire. Thankfully i met men and women who knew of that desire in a tornado of self destruction and despite my terrors welcomed me in their homes. i got the best seat in the house, the largest cup and the largest slice of cake. i was driven home to a remote location where even my family were afraid to drive me. Then i was listened to and kept safe until sleep was apparent. But there were two men in the front of the car and i was attracted to what they had and whom neither regarded as anything but a spiritual gift shared. My desire has grown since then through application of spiritual principles such that it is mostly my life today. High Spiritual Development only occurs when “WE” carry a message “WE” share based on “Our” experience strength and hope. My sponsors sponsor came with me on my first 12th step call and never was sponsorship seen by me in any other context than this. One of our most famous Irish poets once wrote “Life is half murdered by language” so i guess books and words are all fine but action is the key and the “We” that prefixes all our steps until the ‘having had’, ‘these steps’ and this message. Hence the small i. Not that difficult to reprogram Microsoft to permit the insignificant little i but to transform a life of the big I takes an awakening of the spirit. Scariest journey on earth but i think your great. Lem

]]> Comment on My View on Sponsorship by Tracy http://intervention.intherooms.com/2009/04/25/another-absolutely-critical-post/#comment-54 Tracy Wed, 20 May 2009 10:35:56 +0000 http://intervention.intherooms.com/?p=8#comment-54 Hi Candy! I am excited about you, Jeff and Ken giving us some insight into your own experiences with recovery. I love what you have written about sponsorship. I often call my sponsor and ask how willing I was in early recovery to do as she suggested, especially when I have a sponsee who is not. We women are some incredibly stubborn creatures!!! LOL I would like to share your thoughts on sponsorship with them - perhaps it may help them to recognize the value of going to any lengths and to at least consider the fact that their way has not done them much good. By the way, I do still bounce my struggles and joys off my sponsor and other trusted friends in recovery. I often need someone to point out the obvious to me. I am in school for Addiction Counseling and have a strong interest in becoming an interventionist. I have a few obstacles because of some of the choices I made during my use, but I truly believe that they can be overcome. A dear friend on the same educational path as I began to use again when he found out about these obstacles and ended his life getting high. On this very day, I cannot and will not let hopelessness win.... My friend's lack of hope is a daily reminder of how important it is. I look forward to more of your pearls of wisdom! Hi Candy!
I am excited about you, Jeff and Ken giving us some insight into your own experiences with recovery. I love what you have written about sponsorship. I often call my sponsor and ask how willing I was in early recovery to do as she suggested, especially when I have a sponsee who is not. We women are some incredibly stubborn creatures!!! LOL
I would like to share your thoughts on sponsorship with them – perhaps it may help them to recognize the value of going to any lengths and to at least consider the fact that their way has not done them much good.
By the way, I do still bounce my struggles and joys off my sponsor and other trusted friends in recovery. I often need someone to point out the obvious to me.
I am in school for Addiction Counseling and have a strong interest in becoming an interventionist. I have a few obstacles because of some of the choices I made during my use, but I truly believe that they can be overcome. A dear friend on the same educational path as I began to use again when he found out about these obstacles and ended his life getting high. On this very day, I cannot and will not let hopelessness win…. My friend’s lack of hope is a daily reminder of how important it is.

I look forward to more of your pearls of wisdom!

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